I’ve been having a particularly grumpy week. Blame it on the hormones, or blame it on the fact that everyone is out of school and as a working adult, I don’t get a summer vacation. It wasn’t as big of a deal to me last year because everything was all so new and I went to the beach the week after graduation. Like Holy Spirit is my source of living water, I think the beach is my physical source of happiness. I need to be a mermaid again and be in water during the summer or else I wither up into the Chocolate Lady from Spongebob. But I digress. I’ve been in a grump slump. Thankfully it’s not an all-week/all-day kind of thing, but rather moments of grumpiness in between coffee breaks or eating.
I’m starting to cave to feelings of discontentment. I’ve been fighting them off for about a month and a half now, and I think I was caught off guard by the sunshine and my desire to be where the people are (to see them dancin’ and strollin’ around on those – what are they called again?). So I surrendered to those feelings of discontentment on Thursday morning to see where they would take me.
In the midst of feeling discontent I discovered something: It is OK to be discontent. This sounds so contrary to popular opinion. But I think being discontent is more than OK. In fact, it is important. What does it mean to be discontent? To me it means that we are no longer sustained by what may have once been life filling to us.
You may be discontent in your living situation.
In your job.
In your friendships.
In your relationship.
In your marriage.
Maybe we fear discontentment will cause us to become miserable, so we fight it. But so what if it makes you miserable? Good. It should.
Now let me say this – I don’t believe you should just up and move cities or jobs if you are doing it out of frustration. I don’t believe you should leave a marriage because you are discontent (unless, of course, you are in danger and in an abusive environment. Then get out immediately.)
Discontentment is not something meant to wallow in. If you have the ability to change something, you don’t have the privilege to complain about it. (Speaking to myself, Queen of Occasional Complaining.) Change your situation or surroundings into something better.
If you’re unsatisfied with a process at home or at work, think of a new way or a new routine to help with that work flow.
Maybe you’re in an office job and you find yourself bored throughout the day. Allow this boredom to make room for creativity. Plan and execute new projects. Not only would this keep you busy, but show initiative to the higher ups.
Maybe you’re an entrepreneur and you’re discontent with the way your business has not been booming. Seek advice. Boost your brand. Change your marketing scheme.
Discontentment may make you miserable, but you don’t have to stay miserable.
If it’s not the right time for a big change, this can teach you patience. It can teach you to grow where you are planted.
Discontentment creates room to dream. It shows you want you want in life. And if the time is right, chase those stars.