Here is my working thesis on life:
Relationships are hard, and I strongly advise against them. Relationships are not for the faint hearted; they require work and tears. In contrast, a life of chosen loneliness is easy. While this also requires tears in the beginning, tears eventually turn into a hardened heart. Bitterness takes root, and grows in the soul until emotions have died and there is nothing there but a shell.
With tears comes joy, but a shell is empty.