10 Self-Affirmations to Make Your Day

10 Self-Affirmations to Make Your Day

Have you ever had those days where you just feel as if you aren’t enough? Like everything you do – no matter how well you do it – isn’t right?

Recently I received some news that made me question who I am. While it wasn’t exactly terrible news, it still caused me to doubt in my abilities and in my identity. I soon started to spiral down into a dark place where I was believing lies about myself that I knew weren’t true.

I have long said that being in your 20s is like being in the middle school of adulthood. We all are all in different stages. You have 25 years old who are still in school, who are out of school, who are married and unmarried, who have 1-2 kids and who don’t have children.

I recognize that we each have our own journeys, and our timetables vary. But some days it can still feel as if you’ve been left behind.

So what do you do?

You can sulk and have a pity party, or you can encourage yourself. I often use to wait until my mom or my husband would talk some sense into me, but the other day I realized (because Pai wasn’t texting me back) that there are just those days where you have to talk sense into yourself. So I grabbed my favorite pens and a piece of paper and wrote down things I knew were true:

I am a strong woman.

I am a confident woman.

I am a great wife.

I am competent.

There is a pastor from Bethel Church in Redding, California who says, “Your words build worlds.”

I used to not put much weight in what I had to say, but the older I get, the more I realize that the words I say not only reflect my situation, but speak life into my situation.

Even if something is the pits, I don’t have to say, “This is the pits.” Instead I can flip the situation on its head and say, “Even though this really sucks, it did give me the realization that I do ____ really well and that is going to help me in the future.”

After I wrote down my self-affirmations, I realized that the lies that were in my head didn’t measure up to the truth I had to tell myself. I was then able to go about my day confident in myself and in my abilities.

If I’m being honest, I never put much stock into self-affirmations. But it seems as if the older I get, the more I realize I don’t have it all together and I need that much more encouragement to make it through on those tough days.

10 Self-Affirmations to Make Your Day

If you’ve noticed, it’s been a hot minute since I’ve posted on a Monday. And that’s becauuuuse I’ve been working on soemthing that has been on my to-do list for months.

An email list!

I really pushed off the idea of having an email list for a long while, but I realized that if I want to get serious about this passion and hobby of mine, that this is the definite next step. So I am excited to introduce to you the Hugs & Lattes newsletter!

And to celebrate, I have 10 self-affirmations to make your day go right to download for you today.

What are  your favorite ways to pick yourself up on the down days?

Embracing your Love Language

Embracing Your Love Language

The Five Love Languages

Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages? Licensed marriage counselor, Gary Chapman, wrote this book on the 5 love languages. The 5 love languages are

1- acts of service
2- physical touch
3- words of affirmation
4- quality time
5- receiving gifts

I take this quiz every now and then because my top love language always changes depending on my mood and what my relationship looks like at that moment. Often if I feel like my relationship is lacking in one area, that one will show up on top. For instance, sometimes when there isn’t a lot of physical affection (holding hands, hugging, kissing) then that one shows up as number one. But in reality, I score almost the same on every single one. Literally – there is only a 1 point difference between my top, the middle 3 are the same, and the last one is only 1 point off from the middle three. So basically I’m just like LOVE ME IN ALL THE WAYS.

One love language that really speaks through me is gifts.

And that’s awkward.

How do you say: Yes, my top love language is “receiving and giving gifts?” It’s uncomfortable because it makes you sound like a a gift monger.

The other day I went to Pigeon Forge with my family and we went on this thing called a “Mountain Coaster.” I got to ride a second time with my youngest brother, and he forewarned me this time (the first time I was clueless) that there was a camera. When we got to the end and got to see the picture, he was cheesing and I was making my typical excited face. It’s a pretty darn adorable photo if you ask me, but I wasn’t about to pay $15 for it. Conveniently my birthday is on Sunday, so Levi sneakily “bought” the gift (aka my dad bought it) and gave it to me as an early birthday present. My heart swelled three sizes too big and I felt so incredibly loved.

Accepting that gifts is a big love language to me has been an internal struggle, but I think I’ve come to a place where I’m okay with it.

It means you value a physical representation when people show you they are taking the time to think about you.

For me, my favorite gifts are the thoughtful ones. I had a friend who ordered a book off my Amazon Book list and surprised me with it. I felt so honored! And if you buy me a cup of coffee I’m essentially forever yours.

Two weeks before we got engaged, I came home from work to a pot of chrysanthemums on my table from Pai with a sweet note about how he was excited about this next journey of life. I thought the journey was him getting a new job. It was probably most definitely about us getting engaged. (Eep!)

And Blogger Box Swaps are my JAM. You get to make an awesome new friend, and then you get to send girl friend a package full of love and happiness. What more could you want?!

the five love languages

Embrace Your Love Language

I say all this to say this: own. your. love language. Tell your significant other (in a kind way) what your significant love language is. If it’s gifts, explain why and how when you get little thoughtful gifts it makes you want to cry and hug a pony. If it’s acts of service, explain why and how him/her surprising you with a clean kitchen when you come home makes you want to make out with their face be with them forever and ever. If it’s words of affirmation, tell them how loved you feel when they give you thoughtful compliments.

And if you score highly in all 5, then just let them know ahead of time you are high maintenance require a lot of upkeep.

Don’t know what your 5 love languages are? Take the quiz! Then send the quiz to your S/O. Remember: it’s not all about how you receive love. It’s also important to give love in the way your S/O might best experience love as well. For Pai, he loves acts of service and words of affirmation. So I make sure to tell him how intelligent, hard working, hott he is, and then I do his laundry for him occasionally. (Because the only time it gets folded as soon as it comes out of the dryer is when I’m there.)

I’m obsessed with personality tests and quizzes like this because I truly believe it helps us understand ourselves which it turn helps us understand each other better. And we all know the key to relationships is communication. How can we effectively communicate when we don’t understand what we want/need and what our lover wants/needs?

*Also, I did not publish this post on my best love language because it’s my birthday week. That is just a coincidence.*